Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Sex Scenes: the Good, the Bad, the Dirty - Part 2

So now you're at the point where you've decided, well, either sex is going happen in the book, or not.  But how much sex?  And where, when, and with who? And lastly, what kind?

The first question really depends on the genre and type of book you're writing.  Sometimes your character will just up and demand sexy tymes with another.  It happens.  If it's not going to kill the story, let it.  If your story isn't meant to have lots of it, then use the "fade to black" technique; have your characters show interest, maybe flirt, and the next thing you know, one of them is showering and the other's making breakfast.  Of course, a good writer can break rules (or a bad one...see 50 Shades of Gray), but in general, in terms of sex content, a book falls into one of four basic categories, regardless of genre:

Mainstream:  You acknowledge that sometimes sex happens, and sometimes it happens to your characters.  However, it is not the main goal of the story, and it is by no means a driving force or regular on-screen occurrence.  When it does happen, the characters slip between the sheets, get it on, then go about their normal day, as does the reader.
Romance:  Character relationships drive the story.  Sex is the reward, both to the reader and the characters.  It's a logical conclusion.  If graphic scenes appear, they are designed to give attention to the relationship; they may be descriptive, but typically capitalize on the emotional feelings behind the act rather than the physical.
Erotica:  The story is about sex.  It remains the driving goal behind much of what the characters want to accomplish.  Sex occurs on-screen most of the time, with more attention given to the mechanics, but characters themselves remain well-developed.
Porn:  Debbie does Dallas on the page, and you don't give a shit who Debbie is while she does it.  As long as she goes from one sex act to another, you get what you paid for.

Once you've determined that sex is going to happen, and you've decided how much you are able or willing to commit to the page, there are still the 4 "W"s to consider.  When I speak of the  where and when of a sex scene, I am not talking about the physical location or timing in the story.   We all know people will fuck almost any place they can fit their bodies.  What I'm talking about is where in the book is an appropriate place to put a sex scene.  There's no formula to this, but there are a couple of places where I find the placement of a scene problematic.  I have summed them up here:

Bond Sex:  This is the sex your characters have immediately following, or even in the middle of, a perilous situation.  Sometimes it can work, sometimes it's hot.  Other times you are wondering where the bad guys are while the protagonist is getting his rocks off.  This type of sex scene straddles the line between Duran-Duran-mad-sex-guns-and-passion, and just plain stupid.  Consider your genre and pacing and use sparingly.
Hate Sex:  Two characters who have spent plenty of time dissing each other suddenly wind up doing the nasty.  Maybe it's hot, but consider how realistic it is.  Also, if your reader has taken one character's side in a dispute, it may be hard for them to grasp why the two characters suddenly decide making up in bed is a good plan. 
Stranger/Plot Hole Sex:  We're not talking about one-night stands or the mysterious and attractive love interest.  We're talking about how well the reader knows the character(s).  Stranger sex occurs when no time has been devoted to developing either one or both characters, yet you expect the reader to show interest when you put them in bed together.  Unless there are plot reasons, don't rush them into the sack.
Invisible Sex:  This is the sex that happens when the characters have nothing else to do.  If your characters are having sex because they are waiting for something to do, maybe you should consider writing porn.
Ultimately, it will be your ability as a smut writer which should dictate how much sex the readers sees, and how much remains between the sheets. 

Some of these categories also address the who of the sex scene business, but to me, there is only one hard and fast rule concerning who is involved:  unless you are writing porn, the reader should know a bit about the persons getting it on.  Sex is the perfect medium to inspire emotion, and whether that emotion is desire or revulsion or something else, the point is that the reader needs to have a sort of connection in order to process the act. 

So we've covered how much sex fits a book, and 3 of the 4 "W"s, when, where, and who.  In Part 3 of this series, I will discuss the last "W" - what happens in a sex scene.  So maybe you already know:  sex happens.  This post will examine more closely the dirty bits of a good sex scene...otherwise known as the  good bits.  Stay tuned!

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